Tag Archives: empathy

My obstacles on my path to empathy

I have been working the whole evening on the design of the blog. Now I am exhausted, but still want to post one first post still. And I was wondering what my first post here was going to be about.

Self-Empathy… Yes – that feels good since …

…Empathy is something that I value a lot in my life. My heart starts singing its sweet tune in my chest whenever I give or receive empathy. Compassionate empathy for me is what I need most in life. Because through empathy I receive myself and I receive others and from there life is beautiful.

My understanding of empathy corresponds with how empathy is understood in the NonViolent Communication (nvc) tradition.  Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of NVC writes:

“Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing.  Instead of offering empathy, we often have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling.  Empathy, however, calls upon us to empty our mind and listen to others with our whole being.”

Unfortunately I find it at times very difficult to give myself empathy for various reasons:

  • being unfocused and distracting myself from my own feelings and needs
  • not digging deep enough into the different layers of feelings and needs; lack of awareness
  • judging myself as wrong for feeling and/or needing what I feel and need
  • various other judgements that induce shame,fear or anger (sometimes, but much less guilt)
  • a sense of overwhelmth when feeling intense negative feelings, through which I dissociate in various way

Today I have discovered a blogpost, that discusses some of these obstacles.

I will discuss more about these obstacles and how I manage to overcome them in later blogposts.

Posted in Empathy, NonViolent Communication (NVC) | Also tagged | Leave a comment
Daily Words of Appreciation
  • Contact me!

    [contact-form-7 id="438" title="Contact form 1"]